Dear teenagers with Autism,
I'm not going to lie to you and tell you I know what you're going through. I don't. I don't have Autism, but I do have a son who has Autism and he just happens to be 16. Not only that, I was a teen once (though it's been a few years), and my teen years were not the best years of my life. So, from a mother of a teen with Autism to you, here are some words of wisdom. I mean, I am a self proclaimed genies.
First of all, you are not alone. It can feel that way, I know. It often feels like no one can possibly understand what it is that you are going through, but know, someone, somewhere out there gets it, because they have or are experiencing it, too. Maybe that person is in your back yard, maybe the are across the world, but hey get it and they are proof that you are, in fact, not alone even though you feel like it.
Embrace your quirks and all of your differences. Right now they just seem to make you stand out, but standing out isn't always a bad thing. Those things do make you stand out but they make you different, unique and you and those are great reasons to sand out! It may seem desirable to fit in and blend in, but it's not worth the cost. It's not worth losing yourself or hiding away or even squashing the spark that makes you who you are. Trust me, those who matter, will celebrate those things with you and if they want you to just fit in, they aren't who you want in your life anyway. They aren't the ones that are going to stick around for ever, so why listen to them?
The truth is, you are different. There's nothing you can do about it. You will always be different and that's O.K. The more you try to hide it, the more those differences stand out. The more you accept who you are, the more others will be able to embrace and accept you for you, too. It's really not about having the most friends, it's about having some friends who are true, and good. Find your best friends, not your many friends.
You define you, not the world. As soon as you yet the world do the defining, you're losing yourself. They may try to slap a diagnosis on you call it a definition. They may want to call you weird or odd, non-verbal or different. That's not you. You decide who you are. So who cares if they want to call you those things, show them how amazing those things look! You are, after all, auesome! When you define you, you allow yourself to be the best version of yourself you can be. You create a version of yourself that you are proud of, comfortable with and will fight for. And, darn it, that's exactly what you deserve!
Finally, and this is the most important, you are worthy. You are enough and you are totally lovable! You deserve the greatest things life has to offer you and, while you're not perfect, no one is! Those imperfections make magic! They help you learn and pave the path that will lead you to figuring out who you are...on your own terms! Never, ever allow anyone to make you feel as if you are less then amazing, as if you are not good enough or as if you are impossible or hard to love. If they do, then they are not worthy of being around your greatness.
This will pass. One day you will wake up and realize that you are no longer a teen. You'll laugh at the memory of everyone telling you that these are supposed to be your best years and you'll know that the promise of your best years are always ahead of you. These times are hard. They are hard for everyone, but they pass. They strengthen us and teach us, they give us a taste of adulthood, but they don't last forever.
So, you may not see how brilliant my words are (I'm not sure anyone does, honestly) but please know that they come from the heart. I mean every last one of them and my wish for you is that one day, hopefully soon, you will, too!
Love,
The Perfect Piece
Here what words of wisdom Piece had for teens with Autism here!
I'm not going to lie to you and tell you I know what you're going through. I don't. I don't have Autism, but I do have a son who has Autism and he just happens to be 16. Not only that, I was a teen once (though it's been a few years), and my teen years were not the best years of my life. So, from a mother of a teen with Autism to you, here are some words of wisdom. I mean, I am a self proclaimed genies.
First of all, you are not alone. It can feel that way, I know. It often feels like no one can possibly understand what it is that you are going through, but know, someone, somewhere out there gets it, because they have or are experiencing it, too. Maybe that person is in your back yard, maybe the are across the world, but hey get it and they are proof that you are, in fact, not alone even though you feel like it.
Embrace your quirks and all of your differences. Right now they just seem to make you stand out, but standing out isn't always a bad thing. Those things do make you stand out but they make you different, unique and you and those are great reasons to sand out! It may seem desirable to fit in and blend in, but it's not worth the cost. It's not worth losing yourself or hiding away or even squashing the spark that makes you who you are. Trust me, those who matter, will celebrate those things with you and if they want you to just fit in, they aren't who you want in your life anyway. They aren't the ones that are going to stick around for ever, so why listen to them?
The truth is, you are different. There's nothing you can do about it. You will always be different and that's O.K. The more you try to hide it, the more those differences stand out. The more you accept who you are, the more others will be able to embrace and accept you for you, too. It's really not about having the most friends, it's about having some friends who are true, and good. Find your best friends, not your many friends.
You define you, not the world. As soon as you yet the world do the defining, you're losing yourself. They may try to slap a diagnosis on you call it a definition. They may want to call you weird or odd, non-verbal or different. That's not you. You decide who you are. So who cares if they want to call you those things, show them how amazing those things look! You are, after all, auesome! When you define you, you allow yourself to be the best version of yourself you can be. You create a version of yourself that you are proud of, comfortable with and will fight for. And, darn it, that's exactly what you deserve!
Finally, and this is the most important, you are worthy. You are enough and you are totally lovable! You deserve the greatest things life has to offer you and, while you're not perfect, no one is! Those imperfections make magic! They help you learn and pave the path that will lead you to figuring out who you are...on your own terms! Never, ever allow anyone to make you feel as if you are less then amazing, as if you are not good enough or as if you are impossible or hard to love. If they do, then they are not worthy of being around your greatness.
This will pass. One day you will wake up and realize that you are no longer a teen. You'll laugh at the memory of everyone telling you that these are supposed to be your best years and you'll know that the promise of your best years are always ahead of you. These times are hard. They are hard for everyone, but they pass. They strengthen us and teach us, they give us a taste of adulthood, but they don't last forever.
So, you may not see how brilliant my words are (I'm not sure anyone does, honestly) but please know that they come from the heart. I mean every last one of them and my wish for you is that one day, hopefully soon, you will, too!
Love,
The Perfect Piece
Here what words of wisdom Piece had for teens with Autism here!
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